In the book entitled "Lovers and Sons" the author David Herbert Lawrence shows how the relationship between the main character Paul and Mrs. Morel succeeds while his relationship with girlfriend Miriam fails. Therefore, this essay will be critically analyzing the reasons why Paul's relationship between these women succeeds while another fails.
Paul Morel's imprisoning relationship with his mother trumps all his other relationships. In the very beginning of the book it is evident that Mrs. Morel substitutes attachment for her sons for the broken connection with her husband, and what results is her certain domination over Paul in particular.In addition, the relationship between Paul and Mrs. Morel prevails because Mrs. Morel turn away from her husband immediately after Paul was born and from ever since then all her focus was on her children especially Paul as well as her love for flower. Due to the fact that all her attention was on Paul they spent most of the time together doing things like baking, shopping, dinning out together, reasoning together and so on.As a result, this gives their relationship time to bloom.
Furthermore, Paul's relationship was able to succeed because Mrs. Morel would always offer good advice to Paul about life which was in fact normal among any mother and son relationship. For example, she was the one that persuaded Paul to look for a job in the newspaper the same way she did with her first son William. She never wanted Paul to work in the mine as her husband did because she was very optimistic about Paul's future. Also she was the one that accompanied Paul to an interview to a job that he applied for. Mrs. Morel also lied to the interviewer when Paul could not read the writing in french that the interviewer asked him. This was to show the lengths that Mrs. Morel was willing to go to to express her love and dedication towards her son.
On the other hand the relationship between Paul and Miriam failed because of Mrs. Morel jealous towards Miriam. Mrs. Morel loathes Paul's relationship between Miriam from the very start, understanding that the girl's deep love of her son will over power her. For instance, Mrs. Morel says "She's not like an ordinary woman, who can leave me my share in him. She wants to absorb him." Meanwhile, Paul plays his part with equal fervor, incapable of committing himself in either direction. Furthermore, Paul hate Miriam, and feel so cruel towards her, at the thought of his mother. He also hate Miriam if she had caused his mother suffering. Soon there after he even confesses to his mother: "I really don't love her. I talk to her, but I want to come home to you." One of the reasons why Mrs. Morel despise Miriam so much was due to the fact that she feels as if Miriam is stealing away her son. The reason for this been the fact that the spend a lot of time together. For an example, Paul would help Miriam with her algebra and sometimes when William return it was dark.
In conclusion the relationship between Paul and Mrs. Morel succeeds because of their mother and son bond and the fact that Mrs. Morel dedicate her life looking after her son while rejecting her husband during the process. On the other hand, Paul's relationship between Miriam fails because Mrs. Morel was jealous of Paul's relationship with Miriam.
